Training to Spot Abuse

A new law that went into effect Jan. 1 requires licensed beauty professionals in Illinois to complete one hour of domestic violence and sexual assault awareness training as part of their continuing education when they renew their licenses. The law applies to barbers, cosmetologists, estheticians, hair braiders and nail technicians.

Shelly Wilson, owner of Nomobo Salon in Chicago, is curious to see how the effects of the new Illinois law will play out as beauty professionals receive the training. “In terms of raising awareness it’s very important—changes usually happen at the local level,” she says.

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Warning Signs At Work

Have you ever gotten a haircut that your significant other didn’t notice but your coworkers spotted immediately? Sometimes colleagues have a unique perspective on each other’s lives and are more apt to spot changes than even our closest friends.

If you think a coworker may be being abused by her partner, it’s important to reach out—in a nonconfrontational, caring way, of course—or raise your concern to your employer’s human resources department.

You might be the only one who does.

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The Mind-Trip That Is Emotional Abuse

People often think that domestic violence means physical hostility—fistfights, shoving matches, hair-pulling, strangulation, or using weapons—injuries that result in visible signs like bruises and broken bones. But that’s not always the case. Abusers aim to control their partners and they can use a range of other behaviors to try to gain this control. They often turn to emotional abuse tactics such as bullying, degradation, name-calling, gaslighting, coercive control and threats of physical abuse.

Even repetitive lying to a partner can be a form of abuse, since a survivor may begin to doubt their own experiences and instincts, becoming brainwashed into believing anything their abuser says. These abuse tactics often fall under the category of emotional abuse, and hinge on inflicting confusion and self-doubt onto the victim.

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8 Ways Controlling Men Make Mothering Even Harder

Being a mother is the most challenging job in the world, even with the help of a loving partner or other family member. We must recognize the additional difficulties facing mothers in abusive and coercive control relationships so we can give them the support they need to parent successfully. Most mothers who are being controlled by their partners make heroic efforts to keep their children safe and raise them well, despite the abuser's interference.

Whether he is the biological father, stepfather, or the mother’s boyfriend, a controlling or abusive man poses a risk to the well-being of any children in the couple’s life. If he uses physical violence, he might directly assault the child, emotionally or physically injure the child while assaulting the mother, or even obligate the child to hurt his or her mother.

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